5 Ways to Be Cool in School
One day before my senior year at high school I cut my hair short and dyed it red. I was going to rise from the fires of hell, like the phoenix.
The 4 years prior to that event, I was bullied most of the time and why you ask? Don’t look at me, it’s been years now and I still have no bloody idea. Why was I different, an outcast? Was I even *that* different to have provoked people at my school to succumb to such cruelty? I don’t have the answers and frankly, high school didn’t make a lot of sense anyway. I just wanted my nightmare to end because my self esteem was at an all time low and things needed to change, I needed to survive my last year.
I knew I had to recreate myself, this girl, this brand and turn her into someone…..more me. I looked around at the people I admired the most and wondered what made them so likeable; what could I learn from them? Well, for one thing, they weren’t afraid of being themselves (or different) and maybe that came down to having–simply put– a healthy dose of self confidence; something I greatly lacked in my youth. If I was going to be my true self (weird or not) I had to own it and go all in…and go all blazing red with my hair, apparently.
Did all of the bullying stop thereafter? No, but there was a lot less of it and that made a huge difference in my life. I made friends who were protective of me, who cared for me enough to tell others to back off if they tried anything. And once high school was over and college began? Giiiiiiiirl, I was one of the cool ones. Trust me, it gets a hella better.
My top 5 ways to be cool in school.
Ask yourself who you are, and I mean, really ask yourself who you are because there’s only one you and it’s important to know and to understand what you’re all about. Who is this exciting person within you that’s ready to bloom and show the world how great and special you are?
Practice having self confidence! Love yourself, read positive mantras (you’ll find thousands on Pinterest) daily and focus on all of your good bits rather than obsessing over the bad ones.
Find your girl squad! This isn’t about fitting in, this is about finding a group of people you can feel comfortable with and make you feel safe. No matter what, they will accept you and love you.
Dance to the beat of your own drum. Maybe you don’t follow the crowd and that’s a good thing because life out there doesn’t take too kindly to sheep. Only you know what’s best for you and if your authentic self doesn’t want to go to prom, dude, just don’t go; trust your gut.
Mingle and be open minded. You’re gonna meet a lot of different people going through a lot of different experiences! Most won’t open up in fear that they will be ridiculed so be the person who’s heart and mind is open. Mingle in different cliques and of different grades and get to know everyone. People are diverse and crazy interesting, think what you can learn from them.
“Pop Culture” Inspired (Patches) Long Jacket : Simons
Necklace : Aldo
Shoes: Forever 21
“Whatever” Clutch : Circus by Sam Edelman
Dress : Simons
Polkadot Hose : Simons