10 ways to be a Badass
Somewhere between 2013 and last month my life was a blur.
I was on auto pilot, in heavy need of a reset button.
Where did I do wrong? When did my life become all about waking up and going to bed without thinking too much of the in between? Worst part of it? I think it was habitual. I think I’ve done it for years and didn’t know it ’til recently.
How did I come to this realization? When I failed to win a promotion at work.
I thought I was going to get it. I thought I was going to get it on a silver-fucking-platter. There were office rumours that I was gonna get it. Some supervisors assumed I was gonna get it. Let me tell you how ridiculous my good chances were *ahem*… they came to *me* offering a promotion *I* didn’t ask for in the first place.
So why didn’t I get it? I’ll never know, it’s not like they gave it to anyone else; the offer just disappeared. All that hype for nothing.
It got me thinking though, why do I care so much? What about my quality of life? Can I give myself a promotion, please?
All was doing was waking up, worked my hardest at work, parented my toddler and then went to bed.
Work? Oh yeah, I’m a star there, a pro star (not the brightest star that deserves a promotion, mind you) but what about me? I was acting like a junior assistant in life; I was lazy, late to things and always around to serve others before me.
Why was I not living a passionate life anymore? Where was my fire?
So I changed things, or rather, I’m still in the process of changing things. I’m rebooting my life without the button and i’m gonna tell you what I’ve been doing to shake things up. If you’re living a junior assistant life like I was, I hope some of these suggestions help you too. If you’re someone who’s already changed their life for the better, please feel free to share your story and give suggestions too. Let’s help each other make our lives beautiful and one with purpose again.
My Top 10 Badass Suggestions:
1) Buy, borrow, steal or download a book called “You are a Badass” by Jen Sincero. I recommend this book; she’s bold, blunt and tells you how it is. Don’t waste anymore time, admit the truths to yourself, suck it up and get to work for a better self or else.
2) When you’re done with that book, I suggest you read “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen R Covey. This book talks about the science and psychology of habit making and habit breaking. It’s been on book shelves forever, about time you pick it up.
3) Practice Meditation. It’s hard, I won’t lie but stick to it and it will get easier. I found a wonderful FREE app called “Calm” that gives you a 7-day guided course on the basics of mindfulness and meditation. It’s just 10 minutes of your time and well worth it. I’m a meditation machine now.
4) Go for a Run. I hated running before but now that I’m running for a purpose, running for a change, I kind’a like it. When I’m running, I feel like I’m making a difference in my life and that leaves me feeling happy inside.
5) Join a class. I’m taking pole dancing and kick boxing classes because I’ve always wanted to be Catwoman and she kicks ass while looking good. Legit, right?
6) Vision Board. Get Crafty! Pinterest makes it very easy to find pictures of the kind of life you want. Just print, cut, paste and place it in area where you will see it all the time. Mine is hanging above the television.
7) Affirmations. I usually do this at work before meetings and presentations but never used this for my life before. I wrote a few meaningful daily mantras on a piece of paper and I read this in the morning and before bed—always reminding me how badass I am.
8) Surround yourself with good people. Luckily, we live in a big digital, social world and finding like-minded people out there is sometimes easier than finding people near you. Take what you can get. Remember, a cheerleader can cheer you on from anywhere, anytime.
9) Pamper yourself. I’m only now going for monthly massages and getting my hair done at posh salons because I’m allowing myself to take a break from everyone else and concentrate on me. I suggest you do the same. Love yourself.
10) Dress up. Ever since I’ve wanted to change things in my life, I’ve wanted to change my look too; I dyed my hair pink, for instance. I also went on a shopping spree and bought myself a new look that makes me feel comfortable and dangerous at the same time. A new me, needs a new closet? No? Try it. If you can’t afford a new wardrobe, buy one thing a month that will help you transform into the new you.